Emotional

Focus point 3: People with dementia can live safely and be as independent as possible in settings that promote physical, mental/intellectual, emotional, social and spiritual wellness.

"Congratulations! You have a progressive brain disorder and you're going to die".

Now, how do you FEEL? Even though we all know we're going to die, we sure don't like to talk about it or face the fact. When you're diagnosed with dementia, it becomes a fact you have to deal with. Part of your immediate plans need to be making decisions for your long-term care. But, equally as important is your emotional care. Dementia can cause changes in the behavior of friends and loved ones. Such changes are very common, but they can place enormous stress on families and caregivers. It can be upsetting when someone who has previously been gentle and loving behaves in a strange or aggressive way. Coping with changed behaviors can be very difficult and is often a matter of trial and error. Always remember that the behavior is caused by the condition.

Always discuss concerns about behavior changes with the family doctor, who will be able to check for the presence of a physical illness or discomfort. The doctor will also be able to advise if there is an underlying psychiatric illness.

Anger and aggression are often directed against family members and caregivers because they are closest. The behavior is out of the person’s control and they may be quite frightened by it. They need reassurance, even though it may often not appear that way.

Aggression can be physical, such as hitting out, or verbal, such as using abusive language. Aggressive behavior is usually an expression of anger, fear or frustration. For example, locking the door may prevent wandering, but may also result in frustration. Aggressive behavior may also be a way for the person to try to get what they want.

Some people with dementia overreact to a trivial setback or a minor criticism. This might involve them screaming, shouting, making unreasonable accusations, becoming very agitated or stubborn, or crying or laughing uncontrollably or inappropriately. This tendency to overreact is part of the illness and is called a catastrophic reaction.

People with dementia continue to need loving, safe relationships and caring touch. However, they will vary in their individual ways of giving and receiving affection, and the way in which their dementia affects that ability.

Alzheimer's & Dementia Caregiver Support Groups - Corpus Christi, TX. Dementia caregiver support groups provide a place to connect with other caregivers who truly understand what you are going through; a place to connect and receive support from people who really understand because they've been there too.

Reach out to your local Area Council on Aging. Ask for Felipa Wilmot!